Early in 1992, Alexandra Penney, then editor-in-chief of Self, was putting together the magazine's second annual Breast Cancer Awareness Month issue. The first, in 1991, had been guest-edited by Evelyn Lauder — a senior corporate vice president at Estée Lauder and a breast cancer survivor herself — and had done well. Penney wanted a ribbon, and wanted the cosmetics company to hand it out in New York City stores. Lauder proposed something larger: counters nationwide.
Then Liz Smith's column ran, and they learned that someone was already doing this.
Self called Haley. Penney's recollection of the offer, as she told Fernandez years later, was that the magazine said: "We want to go in with you on this, we'll give you national attention, there's nothing in it for us." Haley's answer was no. In Penney's account, "she wanted nothing to do with us. Said we were too commercial." Breast Cancer Action, the advocacy organization that later published her obituary, records the same refusal in her own framing: they were too corporate and commercial for her.
This is the beat the popular version most often mangles. Charlotte Haley was not ignored, and she was not robbed. She was approached by a national magazine and a global cosmetics company, offered a partnership, and she declined it. That was her decision, and she made it on principle.
What happened next was a legal one. Fernandez reports Penney's account of the deliberation: "We didn't want to crowd her. But we really wanted to do a ribbon. We asked our lawyers and they said, come up with another color." They chose pink. The reason the ribbon is pink rather than peach is not symbolism, or psychology, or a study about calming hues. It is that a lawyer advised a color change to avoid using a concept its creator had refused to license.
At the end of September 1992, Smith ran a follow-up column reporting that Estée Lauder had experienced "problems" working with Haley, and quoting Haley saying Self had asked her to relinquish the concept of the ribbon.